Reply from Cotton camp on men, women, divorce

It is beneath me to write a column on Tom Cotton’s immature writings as a 21-year-old personal essayist for the Harvard Crimson.

So I’ll blog on the subject instead.

There is a bubbling-up issue among women about a column young Tom wrote about men, women and divorce.

It seeks to be clever, but isn’t, and it seeks to be insightful, but is, well, young.

The potentially offending part — and offending only to the extent that Cotton might still think this way — is when Cotton seems to say that no-fault divorce is bad for women because, due to easy marital dissolution, needy women lose to new trophy wives otherwise trainable men who would, if restrained, eventually become their “dream men.”

Here’s that excerpt:

“Feminists who allegedly speak for women should attack divorce, not its effects. If men have easy access to divorce, many will choose it thoughtlessly. They may not gain true happiness with their new trophy wives, but they certainly will not slide into the material indigence and emotional misery that awaits most divorced women. If restrained, however, men can fulfill women’s deepest hopes. They can learn that personal happiness comes from the desire to devote and sacrifice oneself to one’s beloved.

“A few men can see this by themselves, and women are quite lucky to hook them. Ordinary women must not only defend these men against feminism, but also demand that all other men accept the lifelong nature of marriage. If not, one-half of all women who marry see their “greatest fear” come true. If so, they can have their ‘deepest hopes’ fulfilled.”

There are women on social media who are absolutely outraged by that. And it’s sure-enough creepy. They say it’s bad enough on its own, but that it reflects Cotton’s views today.

Others — I among them — tend to think collegiate ramblings should not be taken too seriously.

However, Bill Clinton’s collegiate ramblings to Col. Holmes certainly were taken seriously.

So I am contradicting myself.

Anyway, I dared to direct a question about these writings to my good friend Caroline Rabbitt, formidable press shield for Cotton.

She has replied as follows: “The columns Tom wrote while at Harvard aren’t a secret. But I would say most college students think they know it all, and most who later look back on what they wrote in college — Tom included — would probably put things differently today.”

Rabbitt goes on to say that Tom’s mother has some finger paintings by her boy at 5 that she might release to me if I would agree to do a photo-only column.

I ask again for my 30 minutes with the candidate. He knows the question. If he reads the local press.



13 Responses to 'Reply from Cotton camp on men, women, divorce'

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  1. Women unless students of Freud could care less about Tom’s finger paintings….we want policy substance…..

    Ruth Pianalto

    9 Aug 13 at 11:36 am

  2. Young allright: Somewhere around 12. Surprised the Crimson ran it. Does bring up some questions on arrested sexuality though.

    x Wasson

    9 Aug 13 at 11:55 am

  3. you are obsessed with Tom Cotton…time to find some new material. We are 14 + months away from the election and you are wearing out this topic.

    LR hog

    9 Aug 13 at 1:04 pm

  4. Don’t miss Sunday column


    9 Aug 13 at 1:09 pm

  5. Cotton admits men are often immature when divorce is too easy making bad decisions often out if character.

    Pete JC

    9 Aug 13 at 1:16 pm

  6. yep, LR Hog.
    Cotton has Brummet’s knickers in a wad, for sure.
    Makes you wonder what Mr. B is so concerned about. Surely he’s not a paid troll for the Pryor campaign.
    Nah, prolly not. These rants don’t change any minds, thus worth nothing.


    9 Aug 13 at 2:22 pm

  7. John, I’ve never heard of a politician supposedly from Arkansas being so consistently snotty to a member of the Arkansas press. Not too farsighted. But then, I don’t think Cotton gives a damn about Arkansas; we’re just his stepping stone.

    He doesn’t seem much different to me today than he sounds in these writings.

    As far as I’m concerned, he has no credibility to write about marriage, being as he’s way past marrying age and has nothing but a shack up in DC, if internet buzz is correct. When he gets a few decades of a good marriage under his belt and hasn’t had an affair or a divorce, he’ll be qualified to write about marriage.


    9 Aug 13 at 3:48 pm

  8. the only unusual thing here is that this rabbitt person makes no bones about her contempt. positively refreshing.


    9 Aug 13 at 4:06 pm

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  11. Brummett obsessed with Cotton !


    Was he “obsessed” when he covered Clinton week after week?

    Larry woodall

    9 Aug 13 at 9:08 pm

  12. It might be old, but he still thinks this way and is legislating his hatred for women. So, good call Brummett. And you’re welcome.


    10 Aug 13 at 4:00 pm

  13. Mike ross, Cotton,Boozeman,Pryor,Griffin and more are scheduled to ATTEND, not speak, (too late to schedule that,)
    At Ft Smith Sat august 24th, at Arkansas Cattlemans Convention
    Never seen this many politicos there, even on election year
    We do indeed, live in interesting times, and rely on the John Brummetts to keep us abreast,left wing and all

    mike graves

    15 Aug 13 at 2:54 pm

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